The month of Elul is a month of letting go. “Ani L’dodi, V’dodi Li” ,”I am for my beloved and my beloved is for me” Song of Songs.
The initiative has to come from the self “I am”.
The self turns towards “for my beloved”, I exist for my beloved, not for myself.
And in return “my beloved is for me”. When I do Bitul (let go of myself) when I am able to put myself on hold for someone else, we will be able to experience the other and feel G-d.
Usually we are scared to let go because we are afraid of the moment when our feet are not on the ground any more and we feel we have no control. But the truth is that this is the most liberating feeling of all, when we just say ok H”S show me where your taking me and let me know what you need from me and at that moment we will merge as one.
