Continuing with our series on how to build ourselves up to experience Baseless Love, yesterday we discussed that to be able to love someone else as ourselves first it has to start by working on loving ourselves. The Alter Rebbe, Schneur Zalman of Liadi, explained that to love someone else like ourselves we have to treat the other like we would treat ourselves. Usually when we do something wrong we justify it so we don’t feel bad. The same way we should be with others, we should always be lax to their mistakes. For example, if someone says something hurtful, instead of getting offended or upset, try to look at it from their side, like “hmm maybe this person is really not feeling well today, or maybe he got into a fight with his girlfriend and is taking the frustration out.” This doesn’t mean that their behavior is ok, what it means is that we not only not make it worse but we don’t judge.
When we judge someone, we become vulnerable to be judged in the heavens harshly too. When we don’t judge and give the benefit of the doubt up there we will also be given the benefit of the doubt.
Live a little higher
